Gloria Valoris
| Table of Contents for Third Edition |
| I. BEFORE WE BEGIN Introduction Getting the Most from this Book Help for Tough Spots Sharing Hoarding on Television A Final Note about Language |
Chapter 1 – WHAT’S GOING ON – DESCRIBING HOARDING |
Chapter 2 – COPING WITH HOARDING-RELATED CRISES |
Chapter 3 – UNDERSTANDING CHANGE AND THOUGHTS |
| Chapter 4 – EMOTIONAL HEALTH AND HEALING Characteristics of Emotions Role of Emotions in Hoarding Emotional Spectrum The Messages of Hoarding Emotions Changing Negative Emotions The Roots of Addiction Sanity and Insanity The Role of Emotions Effect of Negative Emotions Using Emotions Beneficially Becoming Well Loving Yourself Understanding Barriers Developing the Ability to Love Yourself Making Demons Uncomfortable Planning for Change EXERCISE: – Transforming Demons – Loving Myself Exploration – Pain vs. Pleasure Exploration |
| Chapter 5 – TRANSFORMING THOUGHTS THAT PERPETUATE HOARDING Impact of Our Thinking A. I might need it. B. I can use this for a project. C. Making decisions is difficult. D. I can’t stop myself. E. My things represent me. F. I have to keep inherited things. G. These things would be wasted. H. My things are valuable and I want to sell them. I. Giving up my things is upsetting. J. My things make me feel safe. K. Without my things I would forget something important. L. I have to clear things out correctly. M. Being spontaneous is important / I have to be in the mood. N. I don’t have the energy. O. I have mixed feelings. P. I’m too depressed. Q. I don’t want to do this work. R. These are my things. S. I just need more space. T. Getting new things is exciting. U. My things make me feel rich. I want to impress people. V. I acquire so I can give to others. W. I want to save money by stocking up during sales. X. I like to stay in fashion. Y. If I miss getting this item, I might not have the chance again. Z. I deserve to have a lot of things because I have suffered. AA. I can’t get rid of this until I have finished using it. BB. I might be interested in it. EXERCISES: - Why Do I Acquire and Keep So Many Things? - Analyzing Your Own Thoughts |
| Chapter 6 – TRANSFORMING EMOTIONS THAT PERPETUATE HOARDING Transforming… Ambivalence Anxiety, Fear Avoidance, Inertia Compulsions Confusion Control Issues Depression Distractibility Excessive Responsibility Feeling Overwhelmed Identification/Excessive Attachment Impulsivity Magical Thinking Perfectionism Resentment Self-Pity Sense of Deprivation Other Help Moving Forward EXERCISE: – Overcoming Compulsions - Taming My Emotions Plan - Analyzing My Emotions |
| Chapter 7 – GETTING READY TO TRANSFORM YOUR SPACE Identify the Process Stop the Influx Assemble Your Supplies Identify Your Priorities and Starting Points Identify the Best Time(s) for Working on Clearing Out Identify Helpers When and How to Hire a Professional Organizer Get Started and Keep It Up EXERCISES: - Time and Money Costs of Hoarding – Stopping the Influx Plan – My Clearing and Organizing Priorities - Instead of Acquiring… Plan |
| Chapter 8 – TRANSFORMING YOUR SPACE Decide What to Keep and What to Discard Sorting Process Clearing Out Keep vs. Discard Decisions Creating Systems Creating Categories and Organizing Principles of Creating Categories and Organizing Organizing Books Organizing Papers Organizing Clothes Organizing vs. Churning Systems for Daily Life The Perils of Creativity EXERCISE: - Clearing Problem Items - My Essential Systems - My Information Management System - Evaluating Value |
| Chapter 9 – KEEPING YOUR GAINS Living in Freedom Support for Self-Discipline Managing Your Time When Can You Buy Things Again? Coping with Lapses Preventing Hoarding in the Next Generation Recovery on All Levels Moving Forward EXERCISE: - My Maintenance Plan |
| Appendix: CONSCIOUS RELAXATION |
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